There was more to this dream, or it shifted to something else, but that's all I remember.
Dream of flowers on a tree?
half of it was covered with huge colorful flowers = attention seeking, joyful and unusual things
other half was bare = sadness,
tree = family structure
A tree could symbolize family structure. The projection you have with two different sides. One is the happy side which is full of flowers, and the other one is bare, and empty. You have this projection because in your life you are not happy with your mom's ex husband. However, this may mean happiness to her because flowers were all over.
In other words, you are feeling not completed in this dream. You feel like some happiness are leaning to one side which is only your mom can feel it because of her getting back together with her ex husband.
Whether in reality she is getting back, you are feeling the need for attention especially from your mom and you vent it all out in dream.
Reply:The dream seems to be pointing to you bringing something together within yourself. It could be two parts of your personality that are at odds. In some kind of way there is to be an inner union. This is supported by your mother and her ex-husband looking at getting back together.
The tree also shows two sides, one barren, one blooming. The Sun is symbolic of life force and clarity. I feel you are not quite conscious/aware of what it is that needs to come together, but this dream is trying to help you see it.
It would be helpful to suspend all judgment on what is possible and what will never happen. Being flexible will help you see beyond duality.
Reply:This dream can represent many things, and it's possible that more than one is right. Obviously there is a dichotomy of beauty and bareness. The question is, what does the tree represent? Often, they represent life and its many branches. Is one side life with mom alone (flowers) and the other life with her and the ex? There is definitely an "all or nothing" quality to the imagery.
Shade would be an absence of sunlight or being obscured from light. It could mean a deception, just like the word "shady." Or it could mean just less sunny and happy, just stark and unenlightened. Notice the flowers were in sunny happy colors.
Ropes can mean ties that bind, like relationships, and the swinging around can be exploring all sides of an issue or looking at the various possibilities.
Why not tell your mother about the dream? It's very telling.
Reply:It's not clear that you were not happy about the husband becoming 'ex' or unhappy about him being in your mother's life in the first place. Somehow I am reading the former into what you've written - you were not happy they divorced.
The notion of your being witness to a prospect of reconciliation in the dream is telling of that. It appears to be something desirable to you.
The emotions attendent this relationship are represented by the tree with flowers and bareness. The flowers represent the brightness that was, and perhaps that still could be by at least one party, present in the marriage. They are colorful and attractive - an uplifting thing - but as you whirl playfully by that rope you are constantly exposed to the darker or more openly barren side the relathionship as well. This represents the mix of feelings you endured while the marriage lasted - bursts of bright happiness interposed with periods of bare non-producing branches - a kind of emotional darkness.
And so the tree goes - while in your dream there is a possibility of mending you realize that such a thing is quite unlikely - the barren side of that tree remains stubbornly so and cannot begin to match the splendor of the bright flowers that are so present and desired. You know that the flowers are not yours to have, you can only spin under them but are deprived by the flashing of the darkness on the other side from having the fulness of love and warmth the flowers could bring.
Blessings to you, this is a painful thing. This is something that is on your mind and perhaps the only solice you find is that it may be better for there not to be a continuation of this intermixing of emotions. But you have obviously lost something that it would be good to have as well, and for that I am sorry and wish you the very best.
ADDED -
Saw your added comment which clarifies the relationship - even more sharply: that there was clear emotional abuse underscores that you realize that you could never find a fully flowered tree there - the flowered side of that represents what your mother was in this - or the two of you together - in contrast to what her ex-husband brought to it.
The stark division between bright and barren sides represents that which is missing that could mean so much. It is a hard thing for you and your mother to not have your own positive emotions returned to you - a situation cannot be seen as whole where that happens.
That you dreamt that there was some hope of them getting back together in the dream suggests that you would like for your mother - and you - to know a healthy wholeness in that way. But intellectually you know that cannot happen there so the tree will not fully flower, even as you play there observing it. Around and around by that rope - all circles, no progress.
Again, I am sorry for the pain of this thing and hope things will be happier for you and your mother in the future. I can only say that I too would be glad that such a relationship ended - it's obviously very unhealthy and tragic.
May you find a happy fullness in your future with fully flowered trees, so to speak - truly wished for you.
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